Singles

Welcome to our site!

Whether you are curious, want information or just looking for someone like yourself, we’re glad that you have stopped in. Here you will find a lot of info about our Singles’ Ministry. We welcome you to take some time and peruse our sections to see what is relevant to you and what is interesting and helpful.

Our goal is to provide you with a place to gather pertinent resources, articles and most of all a place to have a meaningful life as an effective Christian single adult.

If you are a church leader who works with single adults and want to network with us, we also welcome you to take advantage of our bi-yearly Singles’ Leadership Forum. This is a time where we can share ideas, suggestions and input from seasoned leaders in various positions that can help you lead the single adults of your organization. Feel free to email us at or via telephone at 973-783-1010 ext. 324.

We hope you will tell others about this website!

We are here to personally help you through the single adult stages of your life. In the meantime, we hope to see you at our next event.

Enjoy Your Visit,

Pastor Marcus and Grace Bourbon
Directors of Singles’ Ministry

About Us

The primary focus of the Singles’ Ministry is to provide a safe place for Christian singles to fellowship with other singles in a Christ-centered environment that promotes relationships, and marriages within God’s timing.

We are a growing ministry that serves over 500 singles of different ages, cultures, ethnicities, and social economic levels, engaged in a process of growing personally, socially, spiritually, and intellectually.

We’re excited to be able to help you grow in your faith as a Christian single adult by:

  1. Providing fun-filled, age appropriate activities that promote friendships and networking capabilities.
  2. In depth discussion groups which deal with intellectual stimulating topics that address current issues that effect singles today.
  3. Social functions that promote healthy relationships that enables you to learn about yourself and others of the opposite gender.
  4. A stable spiritual environment that provides the single person with spiritual grounding of biblical principles.

Regardless of your single status, we want to welcome you! We define a single adult as one who is legally single, rather than one who is currently in the process of divorce or separation.

If you are going through the process of divorce or separation, we want to encourage you and provide you with a roadmap to possible reconciliation. Christ Church offers pastoral counseling as well as recommendations of other counseling professionals in the area.

If reconciliation is not possible, we suggest a transitional period of healing during which we strongly recommend attending DivorceCare or an alternative divorce recovery program.

After a transitional period, the Singles’ Ministry wants to help you get plugged in.

If you would like to be included on our email or mailing list and receive occasional information regarding upcoming events and activities, or information pertinent to the life as a Christian single adult, please feel free to contact us at .

Our Leaders

Pastor Marcus Bourbon MDiv.

Marcus provides a healthy perspective and support to those dealing with divorce and recovery. He also provides specific advice to men dealing with past hurts, understanding financial responsibility, and overcoming conflicts with prior relationships. Marcus’s academic training, along with a diverse management and accounting background, has afforded him the opportunity to further the Kingdom of God in a variety of ways. He is a committed member of Christ Church for over nine years and is currently a district leader in the LIFE Group system, providing pastoral oversight to over 200 families. He holds a bachelors degree in accounting from New Jersey City University and has an earned Master’s of Divinity degree with a concentration in Urban Studies from Alliance Theological Seminary.

Grace Bourbon Ed.D.

Grace brings a caring and nurturing voice to women struggling with waiting on God for a spouse, and support to women with stepchildren and blended families. Grace is a an accomplished Senior Educational Administrator and Consultant with over twenty-five years of experience in education and administration including early childhood education, elementary education, child development psychology, educational strategies, and educational administration. She has been a committed member of Christ Church for over ten years and currently serves in a support capacity with her husband, providing pastoral oversight to families in the LIFE Group system. She holds a Master’s Degree from Oral Roberts University, and a earned Doctoral Degree in Education from Nova Southeastern University.

Single Living

Singleness in the United States is increasing every year. There are currently 82 million unmarried adults representing 44% of all adults over 18 years old. (2000 census).

The Singles’ Ministry of Christ Church is for single people who have never been or even contemplated on getting married who are in their late twenties to late fifties. We offer age appropriate activities, and functions that fit your style, experiential background, and mindset. We understand that as a single person, you face different obstacles and freedoms that are much different than married or single parents.

As a single person we offer you…

  1. We want you to grow personally by focusing upon issues that help you grow in such areas as; career choice, financial and budgeting issues, sexuality, courting/dating skills, developing identity, pre-marital issues, self-esteem, etc. This is accomplished through specialized workshops and seminars, with guests’ speakers that have specific experience and knowledge in these areas.
  2. We understand that you need a safe place to build healthy relationships. We offer social functions and activities in a Christ-centered environment that promotes social intercourse with people of like interests, hobbies, and life goals. We value emotional, physical and spiritual safety in all the activities that we offer. Most of all, we want you to have fellowships and marriages within God’s timing.
  3. We understand that as a single person the spiritual journey may be difficult and lonely. That is why we take particular interest in your spiritual life, by providing in depth biblical insights into topics that affect your journey everyday. Such topics as; dealing with sexual sins, boundaries in dating, living an abstinence life, and living the Christian single life. Many of these topics are covered in private confidential discussion groups, or in one-on-one peer mentoring relationships.

There are so many issues that face single adults today. We’ve designed this page to contain helpful articles and resources that can bring encouragement, motivation, and personal growth. We value your fellowship and want to invite you to take part in our next event or function. We hope to see you there!

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Single Again

13.5 million people are widowed in the U.S (2000 census). 44% of first marriages, 60% of second marriages and 72% of third marriages end in divorce in the U.S.

The Singles’ Ministry of Christ Church is for people that are single again, from either death of a spouse or death of a marriage. We understand that this can be one of the most difficult experiences a person will ever face. We offer specific workshops, functions and activities that fit your style, experiential background, and mindset. In today’s society the divorce rate is increasing, thus requiring specialized support groups, discussions, and functions that touch upon biblically based sensitive topics.

As a person who is now single again we offer you a place to…

  1. Build your life again through a support network with others of like experiences. We want you to grow personally by focusing upon issues such areas as; grief and/or divorce recovery, money management, coping with change, health and wellness, and dating again. This is accomplished through specialized workshops and seminars, with guest speakers that have specific experience and knowledge in these areas. We offer support groups called grief share, and divorce care.
  2. Build healthy relationship in a Christ-centered environment that promotes social intercourse with people of like interests, hobbies, and life goals. We value emotional, physical and spiritual safety in all the activities that we offer.
  3. Build a greater intimacy level with the Lord Jesus Christ like never before. We take particular interest in your spiritual life, by providing in depth biblical insights into topics that affect your journey everyday. Such topics as; divorce and remarriage, dealing with guilt and shame; dealing with sexual sins, and getting back into the dating scene. Many of these topics are covered in private support groups, or in specialized conference workshops.

There are so many issues that face single adults today. We’ve designed this page to contain helpful articles and resources that can bring encouragement, motivation, and personal growth. We value your fellowship and want to invite you to take part in our next event or function. We hope to see you there!

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Single Parents

There are currently about 14 million single parents in the U.S (2000 census).

The Singles’ Ministry of Christ Church is for single parents. We understand that your family needs support and encouragement from friends, family and the Church in many areas.

As a single parent we offer you a place to

  1. Establish a place with a superior network base of mature Christian adults that can provide you with the support you need. It is important that you have a place to grow personally; therefore we will offer; parental skills, time alone, life management skills, financial workshops, and mentoring relationships. This is accomplished through specialized workshops and seminars, with guest speakers that have specific experience and knowledge in these areas.
  2. Establish mature healthy relationships in a Christ-centered environment with others with like experiences and life goals. We understand that you need time to be alone with other adults; therefore, we strive to offer childcare during all of our activities and functions.
  3. Establish a new life of intimacy with the Lord Jesus Christ. We take particular interest in your spiritual life, by providing in depth biblical insights into topics that affect your journey everyday. Such topics as; disciplining and raising your children, dealing with guilt and shame; dealing with past hurts, and communicating with your ex-spouse. Many of these topics are covered in private support groups, or in specialized conference workshops.

There are so many issues that face single adults today. We’ve designed this page to contain helpful articles and resources that can bring encouragement, motivation, and personal growth. We value your fellowship and want to invite you to take part in our next event or function. We hope to see you there!

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Blended/Step Families

Second and third marriages now comprise more than 40% of all marriages in the U.S. (Fl Dept. of Vital Statistics 1997) and the percentage is increasing each year.

The Singles’ Ministry of Christ Church is for step and blended families. These vital families are no longer unusual in our society. We understand that you may have either adopted a child or are contemplating marrying someone who already has children. In some cases, the future spouse and children may be of a different culture or ethnicity. This step/blended family unit brings with it a unique set of issues and obstacles that single persons typically do not face. Few things remain the same when you make the transition from a primary family to a single-parent family to a blended family. Within the space of two or three years, many people take those quantum leaps.

As a person who is a step-parent or contemplating a blended family we offer you a place to…

  1. Grow personally by focusing upon topics such areas as; step-parenting skills, time alone, dealing with racial issues, money management, coping with change, remarriage. This is accomplished through specialized workshops and seminars, with guest speakers that have specific experience and knowledge in these areas.
  2. Build healthy relationship in a Christ-centered environment with people that can provide a network of peers, to help with shared parenting, mentoring, encouragement, and adult conversation. We value emotional, physical and spiritual safety in all the activities that we offer.
  3. Build a greater intimacy level with the Lord Jesus Christ like never before. We take particular interest in your spiritual life, by providing in depth biblical insights into topics that affect your journey everyday. Such topics as; divorce and remarriage, dealing with guilt and shame; dealing with sexual sins, and marriage issues. Many of these topics are covered in private support groups, or in specialized conference workshops.

There are so many issues that face single adults today. We’ve designed this page to contain helpful articles and resources that can bring encouragement, motivation, and personal growth. We value your fellowship and want to invite you to take part in our next event or function. We hope to see you there!